Reddit user seeks advice about first Mother’s Day: His wife wants to stay home with baby, families not pleased


Mother’s Day is a special occasion celebrated by Americans around the country, to honor and thank mothers for all that they do. 

Mother’s Day 2023 is Sunday, May 14th, and many are making their family plans for the annual day. 

A Reddit user sought advice after his wife recently became a new mom and decided that she wanted to spend Mother’s Day with just her husband and her baby. 

Reddit user “El_Yanomami” took to the “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit on May 3 asking if he and his wife were in the wrong for not wanting to attend a large family gathering for the occasion. 

“My wife and I come from a Hispanic household, where apparently every festivity needs to be spent [with] family,” he explained. 

When he and his wife decided not to attend the large gathering, the family did not take the decision well, he said.

“The idea wasn’t well received from our mothers… they tried to make us feel guilty about it,” he said. 

The user asked the Reddit community if he and his wife were being rude for making this decision. 

A majority of the Redditors in that community said he and his wife were not in the wrong — and that the new mother should get to spend the day however she wants as it is, after all, her day, too.

“Do whatever your wife wishes to do on that day,” one user wrote. 

Another user said the same scenario happened with his or her mother-in-law ­— advising the couple to look out for their own family.

“Your parents don’t get to control you for every holiday… spend time with your significant other and kid,” the Redditor wrote. 

Amy Morin, a Florida-based licensed psychotherapist and the editor-in-chief of Verywell Mind, said that just because the wife’s family tried “to make her feel guilty, doesn’t mean she is doing anything wrong.”

Morin told Fox News Digital by email, “A new mom has a right to honor her wishes, and she can set boundaries with people around her,” she said. 

The mother in this particular situation is probably focusing on her new child – and realizing that her role has now expanded, she added.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Jayme Albin told Fox News Digital that the family should support the new mom in this stage of her life. 

“The extended family should be flexible and adaptive as the family grows, and recognize that each nuclear family needs time to bond and have their own traditions,” she said. 

The New-York based professional noted that although there may be family tradition surrounding spending every holiday together, times have changed. 

“Oftentimes, cultures or families have traditions that developed because they were once adaptive and helpful, but are no longer significant in the way people live their lives presently,” she said. 

Fox News Digital reached out to the Redditor for additional comment.